Ask Emo Mailman

R.K. MSW, PCSW (She/Her) 

How are you doing friends? I am not always sure that I can say that I’m not a perfect person, these past several years I’ve been on a path of self-discovery to learn to love myself again. I thought for a long time that hating yourself made you self-aware or if I hated myself long enough it would mean that I could be forgiven for every terrible thing I had ever done. I, like many others struggle with as well, have felt like it was impossible to love myself: to feel connected and good about the way I feel and the things that I do. It was awful being by myself, I thought that I needed people to keep me interesting and keep me happy.

And one day the whole world shut down and I was forced to be by myself and being around someone you hate all day is miserable. So, I had to, had to learn how to at least like myself if I was going to get through however long a pandemic can last. I won’t lie, I made a lot of mistakes and will probably continue to make mistakes along the way. But if you are or were someone who struggled with learning how to love and accept yourself, I feel like I can give you some advice.

So, you’re probably wondering, what makes this schmuck qualified to give advice? Well, along this journey of self-love and self-discovery I decided I wanted to help people because it was one of the only things I really enjoyed and thought I was good at. I got my bachelors and masters in social work and currently work as a clinical therapist. So, giving informed recommendations is something I love. To support more of you beautiful readers I would love to give you some guidance on how to navigate this world and love yourself along the way. Send some emails or message me anonymously HERE .